Divorce is something that raises the stakes regardless of whether it’s amicable or not. The bottom line is that you’re bringing an end to what was “us” and are now becoming an “I.” This means divvying up assets, making child custody arrangements, and negotiating terms.
When there’s so much at stake, it’s crucial that you avoid making any mistakes which could cost you. Therefore, to help you navigate the often tumultuous road of divorce, here are some of the biggest mistakes to avoid.
Not Consulting With A Lawyer
It’s vital that you talk to a legal professional before moving forward with your divorce. Many people make the mistake of taking advice that they find online or advice which is given to them from family and friends. However, the only reliable legal source is a professional attorney.
You wouldn’t ask your dentist for real estate advice, and you certainly wouldn’t ask your realtor for dental advice, so why would you take legal advice from someone who isn’t a lawyer?
It’s imperative that you talk to a lawyer about your specific set of circumstances so that they can tell you the steps to take.
Airing Your Personal Laundry Online
It’s understandable that you have a lot weighing on you emotionally during your divorce, and that you may want to let it out. However, social media isn’t the place to do it.
Even if your account is private, there’s no telling who may be looking at it and may put it in the hands of your ex. Anything that you post online could be used against you, especially if you’re in a custody battle. You’re better off keeping your business private and confiding in close friends and family instead.
Using The Kids As Weapons
When you want to hurt your ex, you may want to do it with whatever means necessary. Many emotional divorcing parents turn to kids as the best weapon since it’s likely where it hurts most.
However, think about how this will affect your children. Getting the kids involved in any way is only doing yourself a disservice. Take the higher road and try to do what’s best for your kids. Don’t bad-mouth the other parent under any circumstances.
Jumping Into Another Relationship
Even though you may be emotionally finished with your ex-spouse, or vice-versa, jumping straight into a new relationship can be a horrible idea for several reasons.
For one, it can be used against you in court. Secondly, it may cause extra stress between you and the other parent. Your kids may not be ready either. If you do start seeing someone else, move slowly and with intention. There’s no rush if it’s meant to be!